People have been asking me how this second pregnancy is different than the first, so I thought I’d share. I actually think this pregnancy is easier than the last.
I have been throwing up just as frequently, so that part isn’t better, but it’s not worse either.
I think I’m less stressed for two reasons. First, I have a job that I like now and that has normal-ish hours, which makes my entire life, not just this pregnancy, easier for me. Second, I’m not scared of having a kid this time. I kind of know what I’m getting myself into, and I know that I love being a mom. I thought that I would love it before B was born, but now I really do know it.
My body felt stretched and awkward and hurty and alien to me for much of the pregnancy the first time. Now I feel like my body is like, “Oh, this again, whatever, no big deal.” I don’t really know why it feels physically easier this time, but it does.
Yes, it’s hard to be pregnant and to keep up with an almost-two-year-old boy. A few nights, I have barely made it to 7 p.m. before giving up and going to bed. (H was still awake; I didn’t just leave B on his own and hope for the best.) But even though I’m tired, B is fun to be with. I can’t play football with B as much as he wants, but to be honest, I didn’t enjoy playing football that much when I wasn’t pregnant.
I’m 20 weeks now – halfway done. It’s hard for me to believe. I can’t wait for the ultrasound next Thursday to find out the sex of the baby. I want to know now! I’m trying to be patient, which is good since I don’t really have a choice but to wait for my appointment.
I hated that pulled feeling. Like all your skin and organs are gigging for room. Puzzles….buy B puzzles. I hate catch. And cars. So puzzles are big around here. Melissa and Doug makes some you can start pretty young.
Yes, we love Melissa and Doug puzzles!
I think the knowing what’s going on takes a huge weight off the second pregnancy. I’m way more relaxed this time too. But it’s still exhausting!
I feel like I know I can handle having a kid, so I don’t have to be stressed about that part. You’re right that it is still exhausting though.
I love reading about your experience as a mom. I’m terrified about what I’ll feel like (erm… eventually). It makes me feel hopeful when I hear that you were scared, too.
Granted, you have the cutest child in all the land, so that doesn’t hurt!
I was terrified during much of the first pregnancy about both the labor part and the taking care of a kid part.
Halfway there!
When I was pregnant, it felt like being a teenager again – no clue what your body is doing or what you’re supposed to feel. It has to be a lot more comforting the second go ’round!
Yes, the first time was just bizarre and scary.
by the third, you’ll be rock climbing.
Maybe skydiving.
Wow – half way!! So exciting!
I know! It’s crazy!
Get him Hyper Dash, which can involve a lot of running if you set it up right, and which he can play with you watching.
I am going to go google Hyper Dash! Right now, I just tell him to go tackle Daddy.
I don’t know you can deal with that puking. I would have run out of things to eat by now.
Also, I am definitely more scared to have this second child.
I am guessing that the morning I have the new baby, I will be sweating bullets because HOW CAN I TAKE CARE OF TWO KIDS?! But I think my brain is still all BOY OR GIRL?! so I haven’t gotten to the panicky part yet.
This makes me feel better about future pregnancies. I was so flattened by morning sickness for awhile that I wondered how it was possible to be pregnant while dealing with a toddler. This makes it seem much more doable and even enjoyable. Thank you!
It’s still exhausting, but it’s definitely doable. This time I also know more about what foods and what times triggered my barfing, so it’s been a little easier to manage.